This actually really pisses me off. It says speciafically they’re in a relationship, but apperently if she doesn’t want to have sex then he’s “friendzoned”? WTF friendzone does not mean “can’t have sex with” friendzone means you’re a bitchy guy who wants to fuck all his female friends and doesn’t respect them when they don’t want it (never heard friendzone used in a vise-versa scenario not to be sexist). And asexual doesn’t mean she’s not romantically attracted to him. Dammit 9gag FUCK YOU
This is bullshit, and it aims to make women who either aren’t interested sexually or women who aren’t comfortable yet with having sex with a partner feel negative about it.
HER FUCKING CHOICE. RESPECT IT.
The friendzone is disgusting. And so is that comment. It makes me sad that people don’t understand not every romantic relationship includes sex. With all the information out now that can be filed under “sex and relationships” besides just the typical model of a heterosexual couple that fits into stereotypical gender roles and has penis-in-vagina sex only, it amazes me that people cannot concept that some romantic relationships aren’t sexual. I’ve seen more often that people can understand a relationship that is sexual but not romantic than they can understand one that’s just the opposite*. And that doesn’t make sense to me. If one exists, wouldn’t it make sense that there are people out there who are the opposite?
*The only exceptions I’ve seen to this are relationships between kids who are at an age where they’re just starting to date for the first time and relationships in which at least one person physically cannot have sex.
things tumblr needs:
- an option to lock the source, so that no one can change it and steal text posts
- an option to force someone to answer an ask privately when you send it
- hide posts if you’ve already reblogged them
- searching multiple tags
I guess, by most of these standards, that that makes me a good ace? Fuck that. I wanna join the bad ace club!
No no. See, no ace is ever good. That’s the nature of double-standards. The double-standards people place on aces.
You see, we can’t be virgins, because then we’ve never tried sex, and how would we know? We also can’t have had sex, because then we’re obviously not asexual, we’ve been with someone! We can’t be aromantic, because then we’re just cold and aloof and inhuman. But we also can’t be romantic, because relationships are more than sexual orientations, don’t’cha know! Relationships are built off of romantic ties!!!!
We can’t be white, because then we’re just succumbing to Western, Christian ideals. We can’t be black, because then we’re just repressing the sexuality that society punishes us for. We can’t be neurotypical, because asexuality is a disease. We can’t be mentally ill, because then it’s obviously just a symptom of our illness. We can’t be able bodied or disabled but able to have sex, because the ability to have sex means we’re consexual. We can’t be physically not able to have sex, because otherwise our sexuality is simply because we’re not physically capable of the act. You can’t be young, because then you just haven’t “bloomed” yet. You can’t be old because then you’re past your prime.
We can’t be female, because then we’re just giving into our prudish society. We can’t be male because all males want sex! We can’t be neither male nor female, because otherwise it’s a symptom of our biology. We can’t be religious, because then we’re just repressing for our beliefs. We can’t be atheists or agnostics because sexuality is a natural part of our existence, and as atheists or agnostics, we have to accept that and stop this asexual nonsense.
THE FUCKING MORAL OF THE STORY IS THAT EVERY ACE IS A BAD ACE. BECAUSE FUCKING HELLO DOUBLE STANDARDS. The unassailable asexual does not exist, there will always be something wrong with every ace, that is the nature of discrimination against asexuals - the premise is that asexuality does not exist, and that we’re all liars, sick or delusional - and all one has to do to fulfill that premise is to find some half-baked proof.
I am simply embracing my bad aceness, because I will never win. So I’ll be ace and I’ll be bad, and that’s the end of that, and if people wanna fight me over it, I welcome them to it. I’m ace. That’s all there is.
I need this on my dash again, right now.
This could be more proof that I just need to learn to let things go.
Veryvery similar to my experience yesterday.